We all need to find a place where we can go and relax , recharge, nourish the soul and heal from the emotional pollution of our lives . When we don’t , we neglect ourselves , we starve our souls and we are malnourished spiritually which can then make us physically ill .
Women are especially bad at doing this . They put themselves last on the To Do list , or don’t put themselves on the list at all . They change their plans to help others , they race round with their kids , they forget to look after themselves and constantly give themselves away. The theory holds that women who live only to serve and nourish the lives of others develop subconscious resentment because no nourishment is coming back to them—without replenishment they become emotionally depleted.
Creating a place or environment that is just for you is an essential way to nourish your soul, process emotions and experience spiritual growth .
It could be as simple as finding a chair you love in your home and making it the place you go to read a book, listen to music, meditate, or anything else that fills you back up. You could pick a spot under your favourite tree or a room in the house that you love but rarely have time to enjoy. It doesn’t matter where you go or what you do as long as it has emotional resonance for you, and you won’t be disturbed for 10 to 20 minutes.
Spending time doing things just for yourself will make you a better mother, wife, sister, daughter, friend, committee member, community organizer, and whatever other role you play in your life. Feeding the soul in this way is so important that I call it “spiritual nutrition” and actually prescribe it for my clients. I also refer to it as “selfless selfishness” because giving to yourself first is one of the greatest gifts you could ever give to those you love.